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I didn’t expect to get emotional.

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The past 6 weeks have been so incredibly difficult that I’ve only had positive feelings when considering Buzz’s reunification with his mom—happiness for them, relief for the other three of us, peace.

Last night I was continually aware… This may be that last time the four of us sit down for dinner. This may be the last time these kids get to play together. This may be the last time I give Buzz a bath and put his pjs on for bed. I gave him a little more playtime and attention than usual. I decided to bake chocolate chip cookies for a bedtime snack. All the while, I wasn’t emotional. Until…

As I was about to put Ali down to bed, I asked if she could say goodnight to Buzz. I looked at one kid and then the other and said, “What if this was the last time you saw each other, what would you say? ‘Thank you for all the good times? I love you?'”

Buzz said, “Thank you!”

Ali said, “I love you!” And then I started to choke up. I took a few minutes putting Ali to bed.

When I walked back into Buzz’s room he said, “Thank you!”

I was never asking or expecting him to thank me. It certainly wasn’t his choice to come live with us. Foster parents are trained from the beginning to never expect gratitude from a child and I haven’t. But in that moment I could feel that it was so much bigger than just a little boy parroting back what I said. He meant it.

As usual, I let him pick a book for me to read. He chose one of my favorites, Sleep, Baby, Sleep. By the time I got to this page, I was a blubbering mess…

Soar, baby, soar.
The whole world you’ll explore.
Fly like the goose who climbs and roams
yet always knows his way back home.
Soar, baby, soar. 

Oh how I want to see that boy succeed and go places in his life. My time of influence may be abruptly ending and I may never hear anything about him again. I love him more than I realized.

Grow, baby, grow.
From our arms you’ll go,
unfurling like a butterfly,
cocoon opening to the sky.
Grow, baby, grow.

In that moment, praying over him and hugging him with tears streaming down my cheeks, I knew all of the struggles of the past six weeks were worth it. He is worth it.

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4 Responses to I didn’t expect to get emotional.

  1. Cindy Sanford says:

    You are an amazing mom and foster mom. Your blog made me cry with you. Thanks for sharing your story. I really appreciate all you do for those little ones. God Bless you and your family.
    Cindy S

  2. Darci says:

    So sweet. Praying for all today. ~

  3. Carrie says:

    Beautiful post. Have so enjoyed your honest emotions during this placement.

  4. Cristin says:

    Hi Martina,
    I came across your blog while searching for ones related to foster care. Thank you for being willing to share the good & bad .
    We are in the middle of training to get our license. While I am terrified and trying to figure out how the logistics are going to work, I know that God is calling our family to serve in this way. I look forward to reading and learning more from your experiences.
    Have a great weekend!

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