Every foster parent has heard this. It seems to be the default reaction from other parents when we explain what we do.
“I don’t think I could do that. I would get too attached.”
Usually my answer is, “There is no way not to get attached.”
If I ever have the time, courage, (cockiness?) and eloquence for a long answer, here’s what I would say:
You’re right, you can’t do this; I can’t do this either.
God asked us to do something really, really hard.
But it’s worth it.
Because it’s not for our benefit.
It’s for them.
And for Him; for His glory.
I never intended to or attempted to not get attached.
These kids don’t need babysitters; they needs parents. Parents don’t hold back love for their children.
Yes, it will break our hearts.
We are aware of the risks God has asked us to take in this journey.
We’re willing to suffer for the sake of these little ones. For His sake.
Easier said than done.
If people were honest, instead of “I would get too attached” they would just come right out and say: “I don’t want to suffer because of someone else’s mistakes.” Believe me, I fully understand. I am selfish, too. Maybe I should just say that next time.