Being a foster parent

1. Being a foster parent is so easy. Anyone could do this job. It’s as simple as loving and caring for a child who is in desperate need. These are sweet, beautiful, innocent children. For crying out loud, step up! You can do it! These kids need you!

2. There is nothing easy about about being a foster parent. It’s hands-down the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. We prepared for months… classes, home study, reading books and blogs. We’ve prayed and prayed and prayed. But nothing really prepares you for the Niagra Falls of emotions that come crashing down on you when you become a parent overnight, fall desperately in love with a child, learn his or her angering story, work hard to reverse the negatives in the child’s life and teach trust and hope and love, and to fear for the kid’s safety and future and want to do anything in the world to protect him or her yet to acknowledge you are for the most part powerless. Also, there is the matter of just parenting, which is no walk in the park. Just because we signed up for this program doesn’t make it less painful. There are good days and there are bad days. This is hard, really hard.

3. I have no regrets about being a foster parent. It’s amazing, wonderful, rewarding, life-changing and exciting. It also sucks. It just might lead us through a valley of heartbreak like something out of our worst nightmares. I do not want to go down that road. I do not want to be crushed. I do not want to do hard. But this child (any child) is SO WORTH IT.

PS. Please pray for us this morning. Important decisions are being made. Thank you!


5 Responses to Being a foster parent

  1. Lorraine Mory says:

    I’m so with you! This has been so hard and yet so sweet! It’s quite a roller coaster ride- exhilarating but scares the bejeebers out of you. May God continue to give you strength and courage and love and patience and peace.

    • Valerie F. says:

      Amen, amen, and amen. While I’m technically a “foster to adopt” parent, I can still vouch for all three of those points. And we are inching closer and closer to becoming foster parents when the finalization is done with our two boys. Oh, if more people would step up! Here in Oklahoma we are “#1 in the nation for continued abuse in foster care”. Are you kidding me?! Horrible, horrible stuff. I just wish more people (especially from the churches) would step up to the plate.

  2. Annie says:

    Prayers your way! This is the perfect post to describe foster parenting

  3. Instant Mama says:

    Couldn’t have said it better. I am pretty sure that with one (like you have), or six (like I have – yes we’re crazy!), this is an apt description of the reality of foster parenting. So glad you feel it is worth it – I couldn’t agree more. Blessings!

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